FIND YOUR OWN HAPPINESS.

I remember how some girls during my University days used to hold on to an unhappy relationship just because it was the guy that broke their virginity. Even with the realization that the relationship has no prospect, they still choose to remain.

Some people hold on because of the number of years they have invested in a relationship. Some believe that pregnancy is a point of no return in a relationship. This propels them to advance the relationship to marriage or feel compelled to stick with the person.

Some others remain because they have already initiated marital rites. Everyday their doubts increase as their feet grow colder. Yet, they proceed with the union like a cow on the way to a slaughter house.

Even if you do not have enough life experience, at least Nollywood should have thought you that nothing exactly seals a union and ensures a happily ever after. Except God of course!!!

Maybe the girl who bemoans her virginity does not know that some relationships breakup even after the couple have had sex uncountable number of times. The guy or lady who continues to hold on because of the longevity of dating seem to forget that some marriages still fall apart even after a decade.

For those that trap people with pregnancy (both men and women) forget that some couples breakup even after marriage and the birth of children. Leaving the children to be raised by either one of the parents in a single home.

It seems after relationships end, women often bemoan the time and sex they put into a relationship while men brood over the monies they had expended . These "losses" should be seen as a bad debt. Such is life. Wisdom is in knowing when to cut ones losses and move on. Only then do you stand a chance of meeting someone better.

It is needless holding unto the shadow or fragment of the happiness you once had. For there is no guarantee that the shadow would not fade away completely or the fragment smashes totally.

Happiness is a difficult thing to find. Not in oneself, moreso in someone else. Find your own happiness, for it lies within, never too far away. It may just be what is needed to light up the lives of many people around you.